Live In Relationships
--> Posted on 2010-03-01 13:33:05 By Har Amol SinghLive in relationship is a very polemic topic in India, especially when there is a transformation taking place from X-Generation to the Y-Generation, i.e. from the old value system to the new one which has been affected from the universal bug of globalization. There are some who have accepted this concept, but the majority lies in those who have not.
India is a country which is slowly opening its doors to western ideas and concepts including this one. Today’s generation have values which have been inherited as well as adopted. We can witness a number of unmarried couple living together, sharing lives and going around. This a generation back was scandalous and a considered a taboo in our culture.
When we think of a live in relationship we often ask a question that why do couple believe in this kind of relationship. Researches show that most couple who live together would like to marry someday within 5 years. They are in love and want to spend time together. And they also want to be sure that they are choosing the right partner and want to test the waters of marriage before actually getting into it.
However there is a school of thought that has still not accepted this culture of living together. India , they say, is widely known as a country with strong moral values and traditional integrity. Perhaps, that’s why bold exhibitions of romance go for a toss in such a typical society, least being something like live-in-relationships in India. The union of a man and a woman is considered as one of the most sacred acts in this country. No wonder, living together before marriage is a sour dampener for the staunch ethic upholders. However, the new millennium has ushered in great changes even within the country that has forever been enshrouded in a blanket of rich culture and heritage.
What ever we say about live in relationship, an important point that we should stress upon is about the children that are result of this relation. If people are willing to live together, they should also bear the responsibility for the children they produce. Infact, A Supreme Court Bench has recently passed a ruling while upholding the property rights of the children born to a couple whose marriage was challenged by the rival claimants. According to it, When a man and woman live together for a long spell there would be a presumption in favour of their having been married, unless it is rebutted by convincing evidence. Infact, this is a very big sign that even law is not getting to accept such formats of living.
Live-in relationships are definitely more glamorous and easy but marriage has its advantages as well. Nick Powdthavee of the Department of Economics at the University of Warwick in England carried out a study of 9,704 married people at the university in 2005. The study revealed that married people more happiness living together that the unmarried people living together. The research also indicated that marriage encouraged the habit of sharing among spouses who stood by each other in both good and bad times.
Yet, living-in is a popular concept among the young. In fact, even those who are not involved in such a relationship are all for it. Munish Jagdev, a real estate business man, is not in a live-in relationship, but says, "There is nothing wrong with a live-in situation. Different people see marriage differently. Some use it to lose their virginity, some to get dowry; some see it as a business deal, some to have children, and so on. Only a few marry for love. So a live-in relationship makes so much sense."
Some say that problem with marriages in India are the expectations. There are in-laws and an extended family - they all want different things from you. And the worst thing is that you have to come up to their terms. This is where Live in Relationship Comes in handy. With no one to please, you are on your terms and a free bird.
Though live in relationships have been getting into the social aspect of this country, it has its pros and cons. It is a issue which should be handled not only with care but with a greater responsibility both on the part of couple who will carry their lives with it, and with the society who needs to slowly accept is as a living phenomena of the future.
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